Safe Sleep 101: What the AAP Wants You to Know
As a postpartum doula, one of the most common questions I hear is:
“Where should my baby sleep and how can I make sure it’s safe?”
So, let’s talk about it!
Whether you're a brand-new parent or welcoming your third baby, navigating sleep safety can feel like a maze. You hear one thing from your mom, another from your pediatrician, and then TikTok throws in something completely different. So let’s clear the noise and talk about what the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) actually recommends when it comes to safe sleep.
The ABCs of Safe Sleep: Alone, on their Back, in a Crib
The AAP's safe sleep guidelines are simple but powerful and they save lives. Here's what they stand by:
🍼 A is for Alone
Your baby should always sleep alone in their sleep space. That means no pillows, blankets, toys, or bumpers. While snuggling with a soft stuffed animal seems sweet, it's safest to keep the crib or bassinet free of everything except your baby.
“Alone” doesn’t mean without you nearby, just not sharing a sleep surface. Room-sharing is recommended for at least the first 6 months.
💤 B is for Back
Always place your baby on their back to sleep, for naps and at night. This position reduces the risk of SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome) significantly. Once your baby can roll both ways on their own, it’s okay to leave them in their chosen position, but always start them on their back.
🛏 C is for Crib (or bassinet or play yard)
Your baby should sleep on a firm, flat surface. This can be a safety-approved crib, bassinet, or portable play yard. The mattress should be snug-fitting with a fitted sheet, and that’s it, no extras.
So What Can You Do?
Let’s be real, safe sleep doesn’t have to mean zero comfort or connection.
🕯Create a calming sleep environment with white noise, dim lighting, and a predictable bedtime routine.
🫶🏽Room share, don’t bed share, you can still be close and responsive to your baby while keeping them safe.
🛁Establish a wind-down routine with a bath, baby massage, or a lullaby.
(I have a few favorites I love to share with clients!)
A Few More Quick Tips from the AAP:
Avoid smoking, alcohol, or drug use during pregnancy and after birth.
Offer a pacifier at naps and bedtime (it’s been shown to reduce SIDS risk!).
Avoid overheating. Dress your baby in no more than one layer more than you’d wear and keep the room comfortable (68–72°F is a good range).
Skip commercial devices like inclined sleepers, positioners, or “anti-roll” gadgets, they are not safe for sleep.
But What If My Baby Only Sleeps on Me?
This is such a common concern and you’re not alone. Babies love the warmth and closeness of a caregiver’s chest, especially in those early weeks. And while contact naps are beautiful for bonding, they should be supervised and not considered part of your baby’s independent sleep routine.
If you’re struggling to transition your baby to their sleep space, know this: it’s a process. You're doing a beautiful job, and help is always available. (that’s where doulas like me come in!)
Let’s Wrap It Up
Safe sleep is one of the most powerful ways to protect your baby and it’s something you can feel confident about, even when sleep is hard to come by.
And remember: You don’t have to figure this out alone. Whether you need help setting up your sleep space, building a routine, or just someone to cheer you on in the middle of the night, I’m here for you.
Melodies in Bloom Doula Services is all about practical support, evidence-based guidance, and a whole lot of heart.
You’ve got this. And I’ve got you!
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Want more tips or have a question about your baby’s sleep? Reach out for a consultation or follow along on Instagram @melodiesinbloomdoula.
Let’s make safe sleep simple and supported. 💛